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When I was a small child my Mom and I would pray before we went to sleep. It was the prayer that most children my age were hearing, it went like this.

Now I lay me down to sleep, I pray the Lord my soul to keep, and if I should die before I wake, I pray the Lord my soul to take. If I should live for other days, I pray the Lord would guide my ways. I pray for… Then I would list the names of people, as many as I could think of. Besides keeping me awake by listing people it also had the same effectiveness as some do by counting sheep.

As I grew older/teen, my Mom didn’t come in to pray before I went to sleep because I was a night owl haunted by insomnia, so who knew when I actually was going to bed. Anyways, I continue to pray on my own and had my lists of people and then started to add my goals and want lists to those prayers. Also I may of added that I wanted to meet and marry Kirk Cameron (actor,1980’s).

When I went to the Navy, that prayer was literally the only thing consistent during bootcamp and my following tours. I knew when I hit the bunk that I would think that prayer and it felt that it somehow connected me to my family back home and saying all the names in my mind brought me comfort, connection and I felt that I was still doing my part. I never felt it was a religious act but more of a tool to stay connected to God, higher power and to the people I loved and cared about. I felt it also was a sort of meditation that relaxed me enough to actually go to sleep (or rest peacefully if insomnia was present).

After my Navy days I was going place to place trying to find my way and the next phase of life and that prayer was still consistent and in a way grounded me. My list of people grew as did my goals and wants too (no more Kirk Cameron but maybe for someone similar, lol). After meeting Brian (1998), and shortly after we had the most beautiful children ever, it was my true privilege and goal to teach them that prayer. As they grew, to listen to their little voices saying that prayer outloud was literally the answer to all my years of prayers coming back as the biggest blessing of my life. My heart filled with everlasting love and joy. Prayers over my children, for my children and with my children, an answered prayer and privilege! Sometimes taking the time to pray to not lose my temper was exactly the time I needed to gain more patience. Most parents are already praying and then just are not aware of it ,haha.

As they grew to teens our time praying time together faded, (I can’t stay up like I used too,haha) my consistent prayer has never left me. My lists of people (which now includes my niece and nephew and my cousins’ children) my wants and goals may have shifted but my prayer remains strong and fulfilling. Resting in bed at night with a good long prayer helps to also recount my gratefulness for all that I am and have.

My Mom has now passed (2010) and she joins the angels who listens to my prayers. I wouldn’t doubt that she says them with me and delights in the tradition and consistency of our prayer. 

My prayers for others and their healing, happiness and healthy well being is stronger these days, especially with Covid19 (2020), presidential change and everything that comes along with all of that. Right now it does feel that the only thing consistent and accountable is my prayers. I have added another element called Reiki, and sending long distance Reiki to others is literally like saying a prayer for them and sending them healing energy which is something prayers do anyways (my opinion).

My prayers not only happen before bedtime these days, my day prayers sound different but the same concept and my list of people and their needs does grow as our times and events change. My duty and service to serve others sometimes only needs to come in prayer form. If anyone reading this wants to be added to my list, please let me know. It would be my privilege and honor to pray for you and yours. Long distance Reiki is also always available, as is in person Reiki if you are local.

So if you are looking for something consistent in these trying times, try praying. Prayers come in so many forms, do what works for you. There is no right or wrong, no beliefs to believe in, nothing but you, your thoughts and a connection or source.

One time I prayed to and for the trees at Armstrong Woods to heal, remain strong and rooted and protect themselves from the CA wildfires, and that may every person who sees them finds their own healing, protection and strength.

If you have any questions or need help getting started with prayer, just contact me. Until then, I pray for all who visit my words here, may someone be served by this.

*Just a reminder that if you are having medical issues please seek professional help. Prayers work for healing alongside Medical treatment, not as a substitute.

…may angels watch me through the night and wake me with the morning light.


Make a Wish

Go ahead and make a virtual wish on this dandelion. Sometimes the Universe doesn’t hear our exact wish the way we intended it.

I remember blowing a dandelion and making a wish, but then in my mind I would say, it probably wouldn’t come true anyway ,but it was worth a try. I just now had the realization that I was doubting my wish even before it took to the wind. Have you ever done that? Had a dream or wish but condemned it before it even had time to come to life?

There is this thought that if one’s vibration doesn’t match the wish or dream it probably won’t come to realization. If we adjust our vibrations to match what we dream that it would become our reality. If we condemn the wish or dream, we sabotage the vibration match and it will not come or happen. I wondered how I could come to the same vibrations as my wishes and dreams, then I remembered hearing someone say that if we imagine that we already have it then work backwards from there. Truly imagining being blessed with the wishes/dream and how it would feel and how my situations would look different. I started writing down how my wish/dream being true would impact my life. I tried to imagine and feel all the differences it would bring. That my friend, changes our vibrations to match our wishes and dreams! Get in the moment of having it already and watch it really unfold in reality. If you don’t believe me than try it. Change your vibrations, change your results, change your life!!!!!

May your wishes and dreams come true. ❤Rebecca

Let’s Grow Through Life, Not Just Go.

I always hear people saying they are just trying to get through it. I think if we spend more time trying to figure out how we can grow through it, Life would be more fulfilling. We have to be here so we might as well make it worth it right? If you think about what you have to learn while you’re here , let’s try to have some fun. They say that we are either the teacher or the student in different situations. Well at this time I feel like I’m here to learn everything I can and recycle that information and teacher to everyone else around me. So what I have learned thus far is that I don’t want to just go through life I want to grow through this life and while I’m here I’m going to make it worth it. I hope that you join me. I started doing videos on YouTube starting October 1 and I hope that you get a chance to go check it out. The name is under “Rebecca 4SelfHelp”. If you learn anything from me don’t forget to recycle that information and share it with your friends. Have a great day ❤️Rebecca

My Secrets for a Whiter Brighter Smile

https://youtu.be/cjFb_1GM5C8 Go check out the video to my secrets to a great smile. ENJOY!!!!!

How many times do you look at your screen wallpapers?

How many times a day do you look at your electronic devices? If you put a message on there it soon will be unconsciously absorbed into your brain because you’re looking at your screen so much. You should try it with any words you feel can change your life.

I chose the message that I am a billionaire, I spend my money wisely and I’m happy and wealth is good. You can choose any affirmation that you want to reprogram your thinking. If every week you had to complete a task on time, with flying colors or success, you can put a little posted affirmation on your screen that you’re seeing every day. It’s as easy as that. You can go to any photo editing app or even take a picture of some thing that you like and just add some words and there you go. I used PicsArt which is free, I took a picture of flowers from a tree that’s in bloom right now and just wrote that affirmation. I don’t realize how many times a day I actually look at it but if I counted I would definitely say I open my phone or iPad over 100 times a day and that’s a message that I’m seeing every single time I open it. It’s food for thought something to think about.

I personally chose this affirmation because I am trying to reprogram my brain that I can be wealthy and still be healthy, happy and kind. That wealth is good and it will not change me. I had some old ideas that if I were to be extra rich that I would become unhappy, scared of losing it or maybe not as kind as I am now. I realize that I needed to think differently and this is how I will accomplish that.

Do you have an old ideas that are standing in your way, maybe with success, love or even your happiness? Try this screen wallpaper message and let me know if you see a shift. I wish you the best. ❤️😃Rebecca

I made a tutorial for making wallpaper, go check it out.

How to Start the Day Off Right.

Sometimes I just wondered how people were so happy in the morning and decided that I wanted that too. I learned how to start my day off right. If you want that too, try this activity. I have created this list and I’ve done it for 30 days and I absolutely love it, so I’m going to share it with you.

I wake up and go through this list in my head before I get out of bed. Here is an example of my thoughts, I do try to change them daily.

I am content. I have people who love me, count on me and look up to me. I have people that I love very much and I show them my appreciation daily. I think about the people that I look up too, those who inspire me and encourage me to be the best I can be. I love to learn more ways to be better than I was yesterday. I love and appreciate my animals.

I appreciate my belongings (they take up space in consciousness, whether we like it or not). I appreciate my personal home environment, neighbors and my neighborhood. I am passionate about so much. I find joy in everything. I always have more than enough time and money to do everything I want. I am content, health and well. I will live my best life today.

I then take a few minutes for a great big stretch and hop out of the bed ready to start the day. Everyday I try to expand my list with more sincere and true appreciation and gratefulness.

I really hope you can come up with your own list. Feel free to share your list below, inspire others. I wish you a great day everyday.

My Dream Job.

As the full moon fades and another year flies by, I start to ponder what would be my dream job.

My Dream Job of working with Newborn angels who have come here, yet not ready to leave the hospital.
I would snuggle, hold gently, touch and positively talk to NICU babies. Reiki. Intuitive touch, massage and comfort, hold space so that little angelic being, who made it this far, would be encouraged and loved to become the healthy baby they are meant to be. Listen with my heart and soul as they communicate the best way they know how. Celebrate their precious fingers and toes, the cheeks and nose. Tell them their worth, remind them that they are enough and always perfect in the eyes of the creator of beings. Ensure they know they came with purpose and to fulfill their personal prophecies. Cuddle them, shower with love and grace and enjoy spending time together as they come fully into themselves and into this world. The need for more love, attention and touch can change their start. Positive influence on their growth and development. Encouraging and empowering their transition here and forward moving. Everyone deserves the most loving, comfortable, and positive start. Someone else feeling and thinking about the success of their arrival and growth. The lack of worry, but having more faith to outshine the negative effects of worry, fear and stress. I bring a smile, love, grace and faith for a more loving humanity. That babies will also heal their mothers and the generation of mothers and women before them. Holding space for parents, caregivers and staff. Encouraging them to keep up their good hard work. Supporting them with love, kindness and a truly caring heart.
I will do what I must to get myself into serving NICU babies and their families as well as staff.
Reiki treat all the rooms, waters, milk, food, even the cotton that touches their precious skin and the skin of parents and staff. I will bring and leave smiles everywhere that I go. I will bring lighthearted humor and laughs to keep positive vibrations moving through the space. I will shine gratefulness and thankful energy for all who enter into the babies space. Offering encourage words to all. Hold space for sadness as well as milestones reached. I will be openly intune and conciousness with what is in and on my mind at all times. Mindfulness of all movements and behaviors of myself and others. Radiant light and bright energy to heal, rejuvenate and do my best to restore the greatest of humanity.

I was born fragile, spent 9 days in the NICU. An angel cared for me,helped my mother and held the space for us both to heal,get strong and move on with grace and mercy. I hope that one day, that I may have the same privilege to serve.

Everyday Self Help & Self Care Ideas.

Energy Healing Modalities and Energy Works Activities.
ps.Pic is Point Reyes,Ca beach view

If anyone comes to me with a problem, issue or just wants my advice on what or how to find an answer. My recommendations are in the following huge list of suggestions to come to your own personal healing and conclusions. Do your research and/or keep watching my posts and I will touch on all of them at some point. All of these healings and therapies are at your fingertips 😁 Enjoy!!!!

Aromatherapy, Essential oils, scenting items for healing.

Reiki and Reiki infused stuff, teas,water,food, long distance Reiki healing

Polarity balancing

Healing touch therapy

Crystal page with pics and placement of stones.

Crystal Reiki


Chakra cleansing and balancing. Recognizing behaviors or patterns that apply to each chakra.

Grounding, different mediations to refocus and rewire the thoughts and tapes.


Yoga, dancing, body movements and awareness.

Legs up the wall= Body Reset!

Repeating motions to relax and retrain. Debug. unlearn, untrain, rewire, reset, renew.

Aura cleansing & rebalancing

Self and space clearing

Affirmations and positive thoughts with intentions

Mirror work

Self forgiveness, others forgiveness and pardons

aka Healing homework

Smile therapy and smiling organs meditation with smiling breaths

Laughing therapy

Snuggling/hugging therapy

Animal therapy, horses, dogs, cats, aquarium visits.

Healing Waters (sun/moon/crystal/color infused)

Color therapy with, clothes/fabrics,foods

Nature bathing forest/ocean

Ocean and sea therapy includes sea shells and sand art drawings and raking. Name and intention released in waters

Labyrinth walk/meditations

Attitude of Gratitude and Gratefulness journal

Meditation walks of Appreciation and Gratefulness/thankfulness in nature/neighborhood etc.

Native American rituals or passages to new ways.

Chants. Songs/singing, Prayers. Spells. Charms.

Candle work, burning papers.burning or wax melting casting.

Witchy wish jars. Lucky jars. Charm bags for crystals,flowers etc.

Dream boards, “claiming” (like i did with my dream car,home,family plan, my desire for two dark twin girls was answered in black lab form,lol.”thats my car” tell story how it happened, maybe family got sick of hearing it and bought it to shut me up,either way i got what i wanted).


Talk therapy. Scream therapy. Hum/moan therapy.

Calling on Angels, Spirits, Spirit animals(research the animal you love, might be a message behind it, characteristic,

Ask ancestors (and those friends u loved that passed on)for knowledge and wisdom to serve our greater good.

Wind therapy and cleansing(aura cleanse)

Sage and smudging body, space, belongings.

Oracle cards, angel healing cards. Pick and learn cards.

“Finger point pain recognizing”. Pointer finger touches non pain area then pain area and says “does it hurt here or do u feel pain here” then moves to non pain and back again. Pinpointing that pain or just surrounding area. Encouraging them to point exactly and self “light” healing or Reiki

Hand and Foot Reflexology

Creative Art therapy, painting,drawings,pottery, soap making,crochet/knit/sew, jewelry making, doll making, upcycling, sand drawings therapy, gardening.

Acupressure, Acupuncture, Massages

Cupping, dowsing, pendulum, muscle testing


Diets, juicing, fasting

Baths with salts, ashes, oils, flowers, herbs, even sparkles.

Remember that none of the above should be used to replace your professional medical treatments and to always get professional medical advice before mixing anything with your medical care. Energy healing modalities and activities can be used as a combination with, assist and compliment the forms of medical treatments.

I’m here if you have any questions or need any more information. ❤️Rebecca

Wanna Thrive, Fix the Vibe!!!!!

Do you want more out of life? Do you ever feel just blah, or run down but you really don’t know why, or that you weren’t feeling like yourself?
Sometimes we need to adjust the vibration, our “vibes”. Do you wanna thrive then fix the vibe. Listed below are a few ways that you can do that.

Getting personal first, because remember that everything I share is of my own personal experiences and not medical advice. Each day is a new day, but for some reason, as humans we may bring yesterday’s problems into today. I personally wanted to change that, change my vibes from the moment I woke in the morning. I want to share some tips and tricks on how to change the Vibe in life, home, car and where ever you wanted to apply them. If you have any tips do share in comment box.

First easy tip. Did you know that adding color and fun patterns to your wardrobe can add a little bit of playfulness, fun and beauty to your attitude and vibration. Above is a LavaLava fabric that I wore as a tied skirt to a dance class, everyone loved it, they also smiled as they mentioned that it was pretty. Wear uplifting bright colors, or maybe a new eye/lip color can change your Vibe. Add some cheerful colors to your home and feel the Vibes change.

Mentioned above I said “dance class”. My tip is moving your body can change your Vibes really quickly, especially if you get your heart pumping and those happy hormones jumping around. Staying still makes us feel blah but get to moving those hips or walking can really help to improve your mood which shifts your Vibes. As we get older, we may not “play” as much and get too focused on jobs, chores and responsibilities which may steal some playful energy and joy. Do yourself a favor, wear something fun, maybe 80’s dance party in your own home. You not only will change your vibe but also the vibes of your home. Next step forward if you blast the music you may even inspire your neighbors,hahaha

This list is in no specific order and remember this is from my personal experiences. These are the things that work to change my Vibes/ vibration, try one or try them all, let me know what worked for you.

• Get up, dress up, glow up, show up SMILING!

• Get out to the beach, body of water or forest. Nature is Great!

• Stay Hydrated, water is the best!

• Eating health, raw and as clean as possible.

• Journaling, dream boarding or blogging.

• Showing and experiencing Love, Gratitude, Joy and happiness.

• Practicing Mindfulness and being present.

• Doing good deeds, practicing kindness whenever I can.

• Listening to music and other healing frequencies.

• Taking a Social media break. Phone friends and family. Write letters/Cards.

• Exercising, spending time with pets and meditations.

• Using Essential Oils such as Lavender for relaxation, Lemon for Focus, a huge list will be on the Essential Oils post.

• Smudging with Sage (other dried flowers too)

• Sage, Moon water and Protection Sprays when I can’t burn/smudge.

• Gardening and houseplants. Greenery is healthy to also look at(heart chakra, chakra information will be posted soon)

• Chakra balancing and Reiki (more to come in upcoming post)

• Crystals are a huge part of changing my Vibes.

Tourmaline. Repels negative vibes

Amethyst. Attracts positive vibes

Green Aventurine and Rosa Quartz Brings in,Welcomes love vibes

Citrine. Invites in, brings abundance vibes

Clear quartz. Cleans up vibes

That’s my go to list if I “Wanna Thrive, Fix the VIBE”.

I truly hope that you were inspired by my list, any questions just drop me a message.

From my home and heart to yours, Rebecca😁

Decluttering and Organizing.

What better way to feel lighter, fresher and more organized than decluttering. Everyone talks about Spring Cleaning, well I’m here to say Seasonal Purging is so much better. Autumn is about to set in, leaves are already falling, yet here on the west coast we had a 105 Degree day. So what better way to handle the heat than stay in the house to declutter and reorganize stuff. You may not think that is fun but it really was. We all hold onto stuff that either belonged to family or we just felt “if I keep, it my life would somehow be better”. Yes I’m still talking about stuff but also personal baggage that we carry around that doesn’t belong to us but we keep it. I’m here to say that when you start with just simply decluttering and reorganizing your material stuff, that it somehow starts to also unleash, declutter and organize other areas of your life. Now you might think I am kidding but try it!

Day 5 of 30 days of Self Help. Declutter & Organize.

You may be wondering how decluttering and reorganizing may be counted as Self Help, well have you ever cleaned your closets, donated the clothes and just felt free and lighter, that’s a form of helping yourself to be the best that you can be. When the closet is empty and you get to put back in the clothes and shoes that you consciously chose to keep, something also changes in your mind and the energy of the space. Feel that space just clear and open up in your life. They say we store everything that we own in part of our brain, like recalling that red suit I wore to my friend’s wedding and keeping it next to the jacket my Mom gave to me before she got sick. Those examples tied those clothes to memories that somehow gave them more importance in my exploding closet. Some may even go a step further and say they cannot get rid of stuff because it has a memory linked to it. I’m here to say, keep the memories and free the stuff. The memories won’t clutter your physical space in your home. When we hold onto all the stuff we don’t have the space to grow, change and evolve into who we truly are meant to be or do. Have you ever wanted to have people come over and then realize that all the stuff had made you uncomfortable to invite them. All the stuff gets in the way more than we think, I promise you that I personally experienced this many times. Forcing the kids to hurry and pick up their stuff, cleaning like a mad woman and always having to close my closet etc. Sometimes even apologizing for my stuff/home before they even got in the door. Well that also takes up space in your mind and body and also subconscious. Let me tell you how free I feel after a good Seasonal Purge/Spring Cleaning. Honestly I believe everyone has felt that freedom and feeling once in their life. Then I just want to open my home to everyone. I’m feeling proud, free, organized and just “adulting like a boss”. Don’t you want to feel that all the time? I have the answer, you totally can do it!

Baby steps! Don’t be like me, “Imma clean the whole entire house today”, that is an absolute failure waiting to happen. Half way through I’m like playing with stuff, trying on clothes, glasses, jewelry, looking at cards , trying on hats…. lol

So break it down into bite size chunks, per hour, per day or whatever works for you. I literally gutted my kitchen, I placed plastic on the counter top, and by sections I pulled everything out of the cabinets. Starting with the seasonings, throwing out expired and then I literally had none left. I decided that if I cleaned a few cabinets out then I would buy myself a spice rack. So that’s what I did.

I don’t know about you but I love me some kitchen gadgets and cooking utensils. I cleaned out the drawers next. Placing the gadgets and utensils that I didn’t need into a bag for the thrift store. Then finished and moved to pots and pans, then to my huge bakeware collection

Emptied all my dishes, bagged up all the holiday plates and random other plates, bowls and tons of Tupperware with the many random lids. I still have a glasses and mug cabinet to go through. I’m a major mug collector so downsizing that will be more of a challenge hahaha.

After bags and bags of things I no longer needed were loaded into my car, I dropped them off at the Thrift store donations bins. I don’t know about you but that felt excellent! I then swung by the store and picked up a brand new spice rack and waaalaaaa my kitchen felt so new, awesome and I even have free shelves. Funny thing, I’m kicking myself for not taking a before photo so that you could see the dramatic difference, but mostly so you can see that I am as human as everyone else and I never claim to be perfect but a work in progress. I feel that I have freed space up for more greatness in my life that is not for just “stuff”, but for more memories of adventures and friends over. I hope that you found motivation in my little blog and please share any progress in decluttering and organizing your own space.

Tomorrow I shall tackle the rest of my closets without playing dress up in all my costumes…. I need to say “TRY” LOL. HAVE A GREAT TIME and Declutter more than just your stuff, make more memories.😁