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The Purpose of Life.

Have you ever asked yourself what is the purpose of life? What will make you the happiest? Who’s life will be touched besides your own?

Tutorial to make Positive Affirmations with PicsArt.

Made in PicsArt app for FREE.

I did a tutorial on making Positive Affirmations wallpaper for your screened devices using a Free app called PicsArt. I placed the video on my YouTube channel because my WordPress storage is almost full. Click the link below and it will zoom you on over there. The guided tutorial will literally walk you step by step. If you have any questions at all just comment below and I will get back to you ASAP. I wish you the absolute best and see you back here soon

Here’s the tutorial link to my page on YouTube.

More wallpaper ideas, get creative and have fun❤️Rebecca

Just Be Your Weird Self…

Let’s just face it, people are going to judge you no matter what, so let’s give them something weird to judge. LOL!😁

I know that I could be really weird, different than most are used too. I try to be sparkly, silly, funny and use humor to deal with a lot of things. Sometimes it makes people want to be near me or others to stay clear of me. I tried not to laugh when I typed that last sentence out, but it’s true. I believe in different things than others, I have habits or practices that might be different than others. I handle situations much different than most, I try to take the most holistic or organic way first, which may seem odd to some. There can’t be just one way to do something and I like to be the one who can find another way. Some say unique, special or weird when they refer to others doing something different than they are doing it. What is your take on being weird?

As always I like to share my personal story in hopes that you can relate, or see it from another perspective than your own. I may have spent almost my whole entire life trying to fit in, trying to make others like me, make others happy, and the only person who was ever happy was definitely not me. How many of us go through life trying to be something or someone we are not just to make others happy?

Now that I’m older (and my Mom has passed). I am free to just be me, no parental pressure or so I thought I had. The only person I’m trying to make happy is myself. I’m not trying to be selfish, I’m trying to be authentic. I do care what others think, I am still human. When finding the balance between being your weird true self and trying to be different for others, you will find that a huge conflict will happen in the mind, body and even in the spirit. Personally I just end up being more socially awkward than usual and it doesn’t feel good inside either. That probably sounded weird but it is a real thing. Maybe ask yourself if ever you were trying to be “cool” in front of your boss or trying to impress a date and you just ended up looking “un cool”. If you can’t relate to that scenario, just recall it in a movie, sadly my movie selection contains mostly all those moments. If we try to be as authentic as we can be, life is just easier. I’m trying to be as real as I can be, striving to be the best person that I can be for myself, my children, family and also my friends. Sometimes it’s easier said than done, but it gives us something to look forward to every day. To be better than we were yesterday. To be weirder than you were the day before, haha just kidding. I have found in my 40+ years of life that the people who truly value you will always be there for you. It’s like finding your own tribe. If you are true and real for yourself, you can’t go wrong. When all is said and done you are by yourself, for yourself, with yourself, to love yourself. To love yourself may sometimes be challenging but as we strive everyday to be better, let’s also be kind to ourselves.

Now I may have gotten a little off, so let’s get back to “weird”.

According to https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/weird

Getting back to topic, “just be your weird self”. I looked up the definition and to my surprise each web/dictionary had a similar yet different meaning but I thought I’d use this one above. The definition in itself is weird. Now I’m all about being “magical” you will see that in other upcoming articles for sure. The word “Strange” did seem a bit judging much (judgmental). So I didn’t want to touch that much. Now moving right along to “Extraordinary” character, makes me want to look this definition up but I am just going to say it’s definition is , beyond the normal or expected, different, special, exceptional and not the usual. The word extraordinary only feels so extra when said a certain way.. try it. Fun right? Say it like a princess/prince. “I am Extraordinary and Fabulous!” ….weird right hahaha. Well hey now, I’m totally an extraordinary character. I can take it next level as usual, it says odd and fantastic next in the definition meaning. Honestly I think every human has a time in their life that they can claim that they were odd or fantastic, I know I can. If we can find ways to be fantastic or odd together it might bring some extra laughter and good times into our life. We deserve to be happy, loved and accepted no matter how weird we are. When the word weird starts meaning something more positive and powerful then more people will join our tribe. Accept each other’s weird and embrace your own weird. There is only one you, be the best version of you that you can be.

I strive to be someone fantastic, someone extraordinary and yet a bit odd. I will embrace my weird and embrace the weird in you. I will be as magical as I can be and sometimes even a little strange. I am weird . Life is weird, so let’s all just be weird together. Rebecca❤️W. E. I. R. D…. witty, entertaining, interesting, radiant, determined!

**My Sincere Goals.
I want to assist and guide others in discovering their unique path to happiness, wellness, wholeness, and truly embracing their authenticity. I want to introduce and teach about Holistic Healing Modalities and it’s importance to Self Help, Self Care and Healing. Infusing the benefits of Reiki into all of the information and resources shared.❤Rebecca

May I …

May I…
Feeling the great earth beneath me, it nourishes me and fills me with a deep sense of beauty. May I tread so lightly and respectfully, as to be an example for others. The stability and grounding that only the earth’s surface can provide, while we visit this land, in this body. I would look up at the blue sky and ask that I be a reflection of all that I saw in nature, so that when people looked at me, they would see the fields and the dandelions and wildflowers and the depth of the sky in my eyes. May this beauty permeate and inspire me all the years of my life. I yearn to set others free from their burdens and chains, that they can feel the grand freedom, like the animals in the forest. May our problems ebb and flow with solutions, like the ocean meets the sand. May the words of positivity flow freely from me like fog over the Golden Gate Bridge.
May the sun and moon radiate through me at times that I need to shine. Let me be the one to help others be lifted to their greatest reflection of light. Use me, my servants heart is delightfully awaiting. May I be forgiven for any wrongs that I may have done. I am healed, I am used for healing all the days of my life. Let my guidance and knowledge lead others out of tunnels of darkness and lead them to the light and grounded in the grass. May I serve as a delight and inspiration for those who need me and may abundance, love and sweet energy reward me and my family. Let me be a reflection of this glorious, ever changing and extraordinary earth. Always remembering and feeling the earth beneath, as to me it is a gift. May I be a gift to others as they are to me.


Encouraging Words

Encouraging Words.

Sometimes we all just need to hear some good healthy encouraging words and statements that just give us a boost or purpose to keep going strong. Most of us have a mother, father, friend, teacher, coworker or somebody who’s saying things that encourage and elevate our self-esteem but sometimes you may not have that, so I’m here to offer what I can.
You can use these statements to make positive affirmations out of and keep them around your house, in your car or say them to yourself before you go to bed, which will be helpful. I do want to make a podcast/YouTube recording that encourages others while they sleep with positive affirmations.
It’s on my to do list so keep a lookout.

Encouraging words you should hear often, but just in case you are not hearing these statements, here you go.

*Ps. At the bottom of this huge list is a video sound recording of the encouraging words, go check it out.

You are strong.

You are smart.

You are successful.

You are appreciated.

You are generous.

People can count on you.

You are loved.

You always protect your loved ones.

You provide a loving environment.

You are enough.

You are brave.

You light the world with your beautiful smile.

You allow yourself to forgive others and forgive yourself.

You are hardworking.

You choose to be happy.

You are grateful.

You stay healthy for yourself and others.

You provide resources for those who need.

You are an excellent parent.

You are an excellent friend.

You take care of others and they appreciate it.

You are a good person.

You matter.

You are forgiven.

You are outstanding.

You are the best.

You cherish yourself and others.

You are healthy.

You eat nutritious foods and take care of your body.

You are well-rounded and diverse.

You are understanding.

You are loving.

You are witty and smart.

You find a good balanced between work and play.

You have great values and morals.

You are independent.

You are not afraid to ask for help when needed.

You are important.

You are wealthy.

You are abundant.

You are love.

You are loved by many.

You are rich.

You are fun and funny.

You have a great sense of humor and make light of situations.

You are fun to be around.

You are resilient.

You are abundant.

You got this!

You have a good judgment.

You handle stress well.

You are helpful.

You are calm.

You create amazing things.

You protect yourself and others to your best ability.

You are the best.

You are special.

You only take healthy risks.

You are respectful.

You are a survivor.

You are a warrior.

Being you is your superpower.

You are angelic.

You are thoughtful.

You are organic and true to your being.

You try to be the best person you can be.

People like you for who you are.

You value your self-esteem.

You love yourself wholeheartedly

You treat others with respect.

You respect your own self.

You are supportive for others.

You support your own ideas.

You are a great provider.

People can count on you.

You are accountable for yourself and your actions.

You are on the right track.

You are successful.

You are well rounded and diverse.

You are a peacekeeper.

You are a great problem solver.

You are unique.

You are understanding.

You are loving.

You are growing wiser everyday.

You learn from mistakes and make wise choices.

You make a difference.

You are needed.

You are a gift to this world.

You are living your best life.

We are proud of you.

You are resilient.

Do your best to encourage, empower and elevate others. Doing so will also reflect that energy and words back at yourself. If you don’t believe me than give it a try.

Below is my FIRST EVER Voice Recording. I am so proud of myself and I overcame a great fear and waaaalaaaa, here it is. Enjoy.


Positive Affirmations and the power of their outcomes.

I am a writer.

I will be an author of books that inspire and encourage self help, healing and healing of thy surroundings. May that mean animals, people, places or things, if that’s what surrounds you then share healing information.

First and foremost I want to thank everyone who has come into my life and shared their experiences, knowledge and endless tools that I will get to pass onto any one who reads this. I’m also thankful for my personal experiences and journey that has brought me to this place in my life. I am happy to share my life’s journey with you and may you be able to relate or know someone who can relate and may we be able to heal and expand in ways beyond our dreams.

I was fearful of sharing that people would judge me or talk about me, turns out there are so many of you that can truly relate and appreciate my story. I almost let the fear win but something in me knew that I was capable of sharing and passing on what I have to share.

I have found skills, techniques and knowledge that I want to share.

On this day 4 of 30 days of Self Help I want to mention another tool that has worked in my life and a tool that I have taught my children. Positive Affirmations. Have you personally experienced positive affirmations? If you are skeptical like me you may be a bit hesitant, doesn’t hurt to try, nothing to lose.

Let me clarify what a Positive Affirmations is and it’s benefits. Positive Affirmations is a phrase that encourages a optimist mindset, that is repeated to yourself often. This phrase is to help in many areas and aspects of your life. Some examples of those are phrases to self motivate, encouragement, boost your self esteem and appreciating your body, mind and well being. These phrases take you from having or saying negative thoughts to rephrase them to encourage a positive outcome or change. Some people even say that saying positive affirmations daily has change the outcome and direction of their life.

On a personal note, because you know I am mostly speaking from personal experiences not giving medical advice. I have had my times of negativity, depression and serious anxiety attacks especially if I felt that I was being judged. I only felt judged because I was doing a fine job of negatively judging myself. I used to walk by the mirror and say things negative statements like “wow Be, you getting a bit chunky, got junk in the trunk” and talk smack about my hair and skin. Asking myself how anyone could love me when I couldn’t even look at myself with a loving heart. Self criticism is sooooo harmful for ourselves and maybe we don’t even realize that we are doing it. What are some of the things that you might say to yourself, unless you have already retrained yourself, then I am so proud of you.

If we literally reduce the negative thoughts and messages we tell ourselves we could be so much happier. I only say that statement because that is what happened to me. I was gifted this wonderful book by Louise Hay, “You Can Heal Your Life” this book was absolutely mind blowing for me, you might want to check it out.

Louise Hay had two positive affirmations that I started saying to myself in the mirror. “My happy thoughts help create my healthy body”. “Wellness is the natural state of my body. I am in perfect health.” You can make your own affirmations and make them fit your personal positive thoughts geared towards the outcome that you want to feel.

Remember that they never claimed that affirmations could cure anxiety,depression or self destructive behaviors but for me personally it redirects my thoughts, energy and mind, to a more positive energy and feeling and that works for me.

Using encouraging words and powerful positive phrases retires my “old tapes” from playing in my mind. Maybe even as a distraction from my original thoughts, I reword the phrase to suit a positive aspect. I use phrases like. I am a successful person. I am confident in myself and my life choices. I am in charge of myself and trust my own intuition. My intentions are pure and from my heart. I choose to be happy, healthy and wealthy. I am resilient and rise above tough times. I surround myself with people who love me. I am free to be myself. I accept and love myself, right as I am now.

Those are just a few of my own. Now you can try to make your own and personalize them to suit you. To create positive affirmations you simply start with “I am, I”, that makes it specific that you are saying it to and for you. Always use the present tense, keep it positive, keep it short, be specific to yourself and use at least one dynamic feeling or emotional word. Once you create the affirmations, you can say it out loud or to yourself often. You can write them down and post them in your space, on mirrors, computer, fridge, etc. You can use them in meditations and journaling. You can share them with friends and encourage them to use them too. Most importantly have fun, spark your own joy and positivity is contagious so share it with everyone around you. Positive Affirmations works for me and I can be creative while creating and developing them. Now you try….

I am limitless and I can do anything that I desire. I welcome change, it is opportunities for growth and development! I am doing my best work every day. I am dedicated to my family and they are dedicated to me.

My Life is a Success Story that I will share with like minded people.

I will continue to serve with all my heart. I am always sharing my knowledge, wisdom and joys with others because great people have shared it with me. I am blessed beyond measure!

I hope that you will make your own affirmations, please share with me your outcomes. Have the greats day ever!!! Rebecca

Self Help comes in remembering others who have inspired your life. Smiling is always a great gift.

Let me introduce yous guys to my Mom, Jane. This woman was just finishing up another round of Chemo and Radiation, not a vacation in Hawaii. Her beautiful smile always lit up the room and brought joy!

Self Help and Self Care may come in just taking time to remember those who inspired your life. Remembering their strength during times that seemed hopeless.

Every month the hospital had a different themed tree and contests to keep the patients entertained and the atmosphere light hearted. Needless to say, we won for best Hawaii themed dressed. You can’t tell by this picture, but just five minutes before she was getting a chemo and radiation treatment which made her so super ill afterwards, but she put on her happy face just for this picture and for everyone in the room. She believed in always helping others and most “have it worse than me” attitude, so she did it for them. She was definitely the brightest light in a dark time. While she was here on earth, she would do her best to be positive and would be always smiling. The doctors sometimes didn’t believe how bad her cancer was until they seen the results, she always said she was just fine and smiled delightfully.

Growing up with her and that smile was sometimes tricky. Sometimes I would be scared because she could turn it on like a switch, she would be yelling at me or disciplining me then answer the phone with a smile on her face the next minute. One time I asked her how or why she was always smiling on the phone and she told me that people can actually hear and feel your smile through the line and it was good for life and business. My Mom was a smart woman who was possibly a super woman even. She raised us two girls by herself, provided everything for us from the beginning and yet worked many jobs at a time. I don’t know how she did it all but she did. All while still smiling! Before she passed she accomplished a lot of her dreams and her legacy is so great!

This is the pic(the one Im licking her face and she looks scared LOL) that inspired a” Smiles2yous” Facebook page, there are 800+ followers on there today. Every time I look at this pic the memory shoots back into my mind and I can’t help but crack up smiling. She counted on me for the craziness, humor, positivity, happiness and extra smiles during the times when we needed it most. But also to carry on her legacy that even though she is not here, I will still bring the “Smiles2yous”!!!

She threw me a Surprise 30th Luau, managed to find and invite all my friends and teachers. She even had my Girl Scout Leader Vicky there. My Mom inspired everyone to show their love for me.
I finally surprised my Mom with a 50th Birthday party that same year. She always said “we will have our cake and eat it too”! We didn’t know at the time that she would only have 4 years left together.
Jane could not wait to be a Grandmother. She taught those kids the true meaning of unconditional love, respect and family first!
June 2006. Jane, us girls and her 4 lovely grandchildren.
Nov.2010 Our final picture and she was still shining so bright.
Sadly she passed December 6, 2010.

Every time I remember her beautiful face I can just see her smiling at me. I remember that when no one thought I would succeed or amount to anything that she was always there encouraging me to do more and to always to do my best. Jane, sweet Janey, sometimes I was that kid being a pain and pushing all the buttons and yet somehow she found endless patience with me. She always had hopes for me even when I thought that I wasn’t sure what to do. She supported my decisions even when she did not whole heartedly agreed but let me live my life. She was so proud of me and let everyone know it! When I graduated high school, graduated Navy boot camp, received my AA/AS degrees, on Deans Honor List, all my endless trainings, classes and certifications, my BA was the last degree she was able to celebrate but none the less made a huge production of it all. Sharing in my successes made her so happy. I always strived to make her proud, not for myself but for her to know that she inspired me to do my best. That she did a good job raising me by herself. That she was my strength during my struggle. She was my rock in my times of unsteady walks. Jane’s smile and hugs were a reason to run home after a long day. She made me tougher than most boys, sweeter than most girls, and taught me to be steadfast and sturdy. Set my mind to it and it would happen. She would says “don’t worry Becky,things always work out for you”. Sometimes just with encouraging words, and sometimes tough love, but it all worked out.

When her time was coming to it’s end, somehow she was still trying to be strong for us girls. When her final breaths came, I got another chance to encourage her “don’t worry about us girls, things always work out for us”. Reminding her that she did a great job as a Mom and the she could go now. She looked so peaceful yet I still felt her smiling as she went on. Happy with her life and knew she did her best with us girls. She took a piece of my heart but left me with a lifetime of inspiration and a legacy to be carried on for her.

A smile can change everything. A smile can impact lives beyond our knowledge and awareness. It might take a smile to just make someone else’s day better. You may even save a life with just a smile to a stranger who may be close to the edge (a personal experience).

Jane’s smiles reached from PA to CA and everywhere in between.
Forever in our hearts.
May I be like Jane, may my smile inspire, encourage and bring joy to lives. May my legacy be just like my Mom’s.